Post by fifePost by Henosis SagePost by fifePost by Henosis Sage" Yeah about fife, I checked a.r.e. yesterday just briefly and I could see your
post about the blah blah blah and I thought fife was a fuckin' total asshole
and you see this is the kind of thing that really gets me,
and when I see responses like that I think of kinpa, you know
somebody who doesn't want to understand, thinks they're fuckin' self-righteous,
thinks that their shit doesn't stink and they're just god's gift to the world,
screw everyone else, they can talk down to people anyway they want
I thought that was horrible what he came back with. If I wasn't busy
I would have written something back about it. But it seems like nothing works.
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Post by fifeHi Maplin. It wasn't fife vs. others. More like 2 guys in this group vs. the world. But, bygones.
etznab's summary commentary is spot on.
as usual nothing works.
fife the non-stop abuser lives in a world of his own victim blaming to the very end. shrug.
đ€« Sean, right there you're just projecting the worst of what you know about yourself, putting someone else's name on it. I told you 3 and 1/2 years ago (and have continued to say so) that I didn't want to get into this kind of thing at all but could if I had to. I didn't know then what kind of a compulsive-obsessive crazy you'd turned yourself into.
Over the last year you posted in reply to Matlin that you didn't used to be like you are today - a grumpy old man. Well, that's one way to put it. Getting into your archive in the cloud (Google Drive) is like the scene in a movie where someone walks into the room where someone's pinned every surface of the walls, floor to ceiling, with photos of their fixation, piles of documents around the room... etc..
Is it right? The point is, 1% of all that would be enough, and normal.
There's no need to go on disrespecting others and trashing your own self-respect to come up with angles, barbs, and why-fors to throw out. But at your age - late 60s, have you turned 70 yet? - that has to be your choice and only yours.
Everyone lives in their own little world, Sean. And that includes you. If you only want to see the rotten side of humanity and believe it's all rotten, not look for a better side and invest in, that's up to you.
There's no need to continue your warfare and I'm not interested in helping you do that as I've said many, many, many times. And what about that "truce" you asked for after trying to flame roast me for nine solid months with every untrue, unnecessary, and unkind thing you could think of to throw my way? That didn't last long.
No one cares, Sean. Everyone knows better. No one wants to mix-in to this kind of stuff. All those people have long been gone from this group for years and years. How many people today have to say "no thanks, I'm not interested" and simply don't mix in because it's all just self-destructive? What the hell, man. Just let it go. It hasn't made the world a better place, including your own little world. Are you trying to find allies, fellow self-victims who've also self-poisoned themselves? I can understand people doing that but there are no more in this group.
I won't say "bon voyage" because I think it's a terrible thing you've done to yourself over the 10, 20, even 30 years. Over the way you used to be, what you used to say, and what you used to be trying to do. Really, just let it all go, man. There's a reason there's no one left to crank and rank with. It's hy everyone left this group long ago. It does no good for anyone's mental, emotional, or personal health and they decided that long ago.
The haughty arrogance of this idiot imagining he knows why no one comes here any more. Then blaming me for it.
What a tosser. What a stupid ignorant opinionated wanker.
He does not have the intellectual capacity or patience to comprehend what and for whom the PTHA archive is for and how other people might use it.
a SMALL MINDED fool is fife.
So all he can do is rubbish the material that is there and the person/s who put it together for the benefit og others ... and not my ego.
fife is a fucking wanker. the incompetent "know-it-all" idiot who doesn't know he's an idiot.
Kinpa/Matt Sharpe's Doppelganger. Fife is as offensive and disgusting and toxic and dumb as he was here.
I say what I say about him because he has earned it and deserves it in spades.
He's an abusive toxic insulting troll. Or as Richard said a "fucking arsehole"!
Here's a little something from the archive ..... another really useful snippet of information for the wise and decent in this world.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B-M0yAR0UPhPOS1may1yb3pCazQ/view?resourcekey=0-HrsrsQstuzftR-eJnlVGpQ
IT ALSO SPEAKS TO FIFE and his disturbing nature, his disgusting attitude, dysfunctions, and his purpose / desire being here in the first place. EG ".........charming and convincing liars who consistently deny wrongdoing..."
Gaslighting or gas-lighting - personalities hell-bent on having their way !!!
https://groups.google.com/d/msg/alt.religion.eckankar/vqgBlJUFXJI/ycJsxeZjCQAJ
Gaslighting or gas-lighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted or spun,
selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making
victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity. Instances may range simply from the
denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred, up to the staging of bizarre events
by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.
Sociopaths frequently use gaslighting tactics. Sociopaths consistently transgress social mores, break
laws, and exploit others, but typically, are also charming and convincing liars who consistently deny
wrongdoing. Thus, some who have been victimized by sociopaths may doubt their perceptions.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting
Gaslighting is just one of the many weapons in the arsenal of personalities hell-bent on having their
way, even if it means doing so by subtle and covert means of conning others. One of the most
important points I make in all my articles, books, and other writings about the narcissistic and most
especially, the aggressive personalities, is that they will do whatever it takes to secure and maintain
a position of advantage over others.
And some of the most effective means at their disposal are tactics that conceal their malevolent
intent while simultaneously prompting their âtargetâ to accede to their desires. I outline the most
common ones covertly aggressive folks use to manipulate others in my book In Sheepâs Clothing
[Amazon-US | Amazon-UK].
But it would be virtually impossible to fully list all of the various tactics expert manipulators use.
( I think of people like Brad Steiger, Paul Twitchell, Castenanda, Hubbard, Marman and co )
Deception is often the key ingredient in manipulation. Deception can be accomplished by outright
denial, distortion of key aspects of events, and a variety of other methods, especially the more
sophisticated lying techniques.
( Well the whole history of Eckankar and Twitchell are distorted 'stories' and manipulation -
especially IMSIAF and how Paul's story hadn't really changed in 1971 as shown in DOBTLEM
book 1980. )
And, as I have mentioned in a prior post (see âLying: The Ultimate Manipulation Tacticâ), a really
accomplished liar can deceive another person by merely reciting a litany of absolutely true things
â while deliberately and cleverly leaving out one or two crucial elements that would change the
entire character of what theyâre trying to make you believe.
( Sounds much like Harold's talks about Twitchell in 1984, 1985, 1990 and how the content was
changed over time in print. )
But a common element among all the tactics manipulators use is that they cause the person being
targeted to doubt their gut instincts about whatâs going on.
Their gut tells them theyâre under attack or that someone is trying to get the better of them, and they
intuitively go on the defensive. But because they often canât find any clear, direct, objective
evidence that the other person is merely trying to disadvantage them, they start doubting and
questioning themselves.
( The Marman effect )
This is the real secret of effective manipulation. If the âtargetâ were solidly convinced they were in
the process of being done in, theyâd more likely put up more resistance instead of capitulating.
Manipulators know this. They win by getting the other person to back down or give in.
( The Marman result - even Lane gave up pointing out the lack of logic and common sense - the
blind beliefs and assumptions. )
Gaslighting has come to some prominence lately because several authors have highlighted it as one
of the more crafty tactics psychopaths use to disadvantage their victims. But many character-
disturbed individuals, most especially the aggressive personalities, are prone to using numerous
tactics, including covert techniques, to get the better of their targets.
Their goal is always to win or secure whatever it is they want. And theyâll do whatever they have to
do to get it. Sometimes the most effective way to do that is to avoid red-flagging their intentions but
rather get the other person to unwittingly but voluntarily surrender.
Instill shame, instill guilt, instill fear, or instill great doubt, and the other person will likely back off
the stance they really wanted to take.
( Sounds like how many of the eckists in Bright future yahoo group operated. )
I have written a series of articles on the manipulation tactics of covertly-aggressive and other
disturbed personalities (see my Series on Manipulation Tactics). In that series, many of the most
common manipulation tactics are revealed and discussed.
http://counsellingresource.com/features/2011/11/08/gaslighting/
The Effects of Gaslighting in Narcissistic Victim Syndrome
http://narcissisticbehavior.net/the-effects-of-gaslighting-in-narcissistic-victim-syndrome/
1. Do You Question the Validity of Your Memories and Experiences?
Gaslighting puts you in a position where you donât trust what you remember or what you
experience.
Thus, one of the biggest red flags that youâre experiencing gaslighting is that youâre quick to
question or outright dismiss your memory of a situation.
If you are in an involuntary habit of second guessing things that you remember, especially
memories that involve abuse or hurt, you have most likely been put in a position where you have
been conditioned to second guess yourself.
2. Are There People in Your Life Who Actively Discredit Your Memories and Experiences?
Gaslighting is the process of others conditioning you into distrusting your own sense of reality.
There are many phrases that you may hear over and over that have led to you distrusting yourself,
such as:
âYouâre too sensitive.â
âYou never remember things correctly.â
âHow would you know? Your memory is awful.â
âYouâre always making something out of nothing.â
âYou werenât right about this last time.â
âYou canât even remember [where you put your keys/where you parked the car/what you had for
breakfast]. Why should I trust your memory of this?â
âYou donât even know what abuse is.â (Or âYou have never seen real abuse.â)
If people in your life are using phrases like these ones to convince you that youâre wrong about
what you remember and how you feel, you may be experiencing gaslighting.
3. When You Call Someone Out on Hurtful or Abusive Behavior, Are They Quick to Dismiss Both
You and the Situation?
Another way of belittling someoneâs experiences and memories is to outright dismiss claims of hurt
or abuse.
This includes diverting the conversation, ignoring what youâre saying, and refusing to engage in a
conversation about things that have hurt you.
Some red flag phrases for this dismissive behavior are:
âWhy do you always have to bring this up?â
âIâm not dealing with this nonsense right now.â
âI [worked all day/am tired/have more important things to deal with] and donât have time for this
shit.â
âYouâre ruining my night.â
âShut up. Nothing happened.â
In fact, words arenât the only way to dismiss someone. Scoffing, eye rolling, smirking, laughing,
and removing themselves from the room and the conversation are other ways that people can show
disregard for your feelings and needs.
4. When You Try and Bring Up Hurtful or Abusive Behavior, Do They Immediately Turn It Around
and Play the Victim?
Another way to manipulate someone into thinking that theyâre not experiencing harm or abuse is to
constantly turn the conversation towards the abuser, making it seem like you are doing harm by
even bringing up whatâs hurting you.
If someone in your life cannot (or will not) let you speak to your experiences, and instead insists on
turning it into a conversation about themselves, the conversation is not a healthy one.
Some red flag phrases for this tactic are:
âYou always make me out to be the bad guy.â
âConstantly bringing stuff like this up makes me feel bad/is hurtful to me.â
âIâm actually the one hurting.â
âYou donât know what abuse is. Saying that Iâm abusive is hurtful to me.â
âPretending Iâm hurtful/abusive makes you the bully.â
If these phrases are a constant in your life, if you feel like youâve been conditioned into mistrusting
your own memories and experiences, you have most likely been the victim of gaslighting.
http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/06/gaslighting-is-an-abuse-tactic/
"Withholding" is one gaslighting technique where the abuser feigns a lack of understanding, refuses
to listen and declines sharing his emotions.
Gaslighting examples of this would be:
"I'm not listening to that crap again tonight."
"You're just trying to confuse me."
Another gaslighting technique is "countering," where an abuser will vehemently call into question a
victim's memory in spite of the victim having remembered things correctly.
"Think about when you didn't remember things correctly last time."
"You thought that last time and you were wrong."
These techniques throw the victim off the intended subject matter and make them question their
own motivations and perceptions rather than the issue at hand.
It is then that the abuser will start to question the experiences, thoughts and opinions more globally
through statements said in anger like:
"You see everything in the most negative way."
"Well you obviously never believed in me then."
"You have an overactive imagination."
"Blocking" and "diverting" are gaslighting techniques whereby the abuser again changes the
conversation from the subject matter to questioning the victim's thoughts and controlling the
conversation. Gaslighting examples of this include:
"I'm not going through that again."
"Where did you get a crazy idea like that?"
"Quit bitching."
"You're hurting me on purpose."
"Trivializing" is another way of gaslighting. It involves making the victim believe his or her
thoughts or needs aren't important, such as:
"You're going to let something like that come between us?"
Abusive "forgetting" and "denial" can also be forms of gaslighting. In this technique, the abuser
pretends to forget things that have really occurred; the abuser may also deny things like promises
that have been made that are important to the victim. An abuser might say,
"What are you talking about?"
"I don't have to take this."
"You're making that up."
Some gaslighters will then mock the victim for their "wrongdoings" and "misperceptions."
http://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/gaslighting-definition-
techniques-and-being-gaslighted/
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Gaslighting or gas-lighting - personalities hell-bent on having their way
Some examples Oct Nov on a.r.e. from teha:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B-M0yAR0UPhPV2M2TG9aZXVnSzg/view?usp=sharing
So you choose to think you are capable of diagnosing psychological states? I notice that neither of
you are ever able to provide ANY evidence of anything. Typical for one who is rather lazy. You
always fall back to the defensive posture of name-calling...unable to avoid the idea that any who
disagree have mental problem, but that proves that it is you that suffers from both prejudice and
delusion...good luck with that...
https://groups.google.com/d/msg/alt.religion.eckankar/bjwfENcQNN8/xMLHU08mpJIJ
...boring way to rehash an individual's personal feelings toward a group that he is willingly enslaved
by...
It appears that someone likes to refute science when it doesn't agree with him, what was it he said?
the same old stories they are so attached to, are able to remain accurately informed about the reality
of things...
Not as full as it once was...why is that?
There is FAR less difference between those two spots than you apparently imagine there to be...
Opinion....so why not just say so to begin with?
You cannot either form any educated opinion on the matter without proofs...
If not, then you are once again proposing that everyone accept a double-standard....so much for the
"truth" eh?
Wow! JR seriously pissed you off did he not? You seem to have gone on a very distinct rant,
...how does it feel to be chained so tightly by a spiritual teaching system that you hate so much?
...however, as you will...
why on earth did you choose to spam me and several others three days ago?
Have ANY evidence to support this claim?
however, do not ever suppose that anyone else will necessarily agree with you. How is your name a
sign of disrespect?
Again more OPINION, as Etznab tries to bully his way out of the accusation, which was completely
fair and has supporting evidence...I am still waiting for you to show proof that you do NOT have an
email account at the address listed
There literally is no game, it was a simple question, however, your response has been noted. It is
found to be very typical of our usual behavior. That is exactly why things happen to you as they did
last Halloween....you refuse to ever learn! However, that IS your choice to make, just as whatever
may came to you because of it, also of your own choosing, enjoy that!
Which do you prefer? Richard McClintock or Richard MacClintock??? I am aware of how paranoid
you are about your name and email and address, however, I am not in any way concerned about any
of these...
Why not? I mean you claim to be wanting "scientific evidence" of things so often, and yet you fail
to use an scientific procedures or standards to learn. Why the double standard yet again? It seems to
keep popping up everywhere from you....
Why no doctor??? When Queensland fire ants attack the crotchal areas, one certainly needs medical
attention before the burst cysts become infected and the entire unit dies and falls off....tsk tsk tsk...
Tell me, what makes you so certain that your prejudices are any more valid than anyone that
happens to oppose them? Are both not the exact same thing? Why the double standard? You have
yet to answer that one question in any way. Plagiarism in no way proves that an ECK Master is
fictional, at best, the only thing proven in that context is that YOU BELIEVE it proves what you
claim it does.It's a fairly simple concept...of course, no one has insisted that you haven't the right to
believe what you believe. I am simply stating the simple fact that your lines of logic do not at all
line up as smoothly as you appear to believe they do, thus, your "evidence" is not evidence of
anything other than plagiarism. The idea that it also proves that any said Masters are fictional, is
simply not an option available to you on that line of reasoning. I have no idea why this bothers you
so much, but hey, that IS a personal problem at best,and does not really concern me...
How was that Halloween party you went to last night Etznab? Did you learn anything new???
BRING IT THEN~!!!! as I said, I've been waiting several weeks now, and have yet to be contacted
by anyone from
Google! I also work with several police officers in my area of the world working on internet crimes,
and what YOU
have, is a whole lot of nothing! I will continue waiting to see your proofs of how this has caused
you bodily harm, or
has costed you monies, or anything else other than hurtimg your poor poor feelings, which is NOT
illegal ANYWHERE
in the world! check, look it up! :o)
https://groups.google.com/d/msg/alt.religion.eckankar/j5vOxtpt4Q4/kp0dBmJbcRMJ